REVIEW: “Boundaries for Your Soul” by Cook and Miller

This is a review of the book Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller.

When I picked up this book, I was anticipating a revised approach to Cloud and Townsend’s modern classic with a similar title. Upon finishing the book, what I found was a book that, while it references Boundaries, goes in an entirely different direction, applying some of the root concepts of Boundaries, but in an entirely new way so that to actually compare the two books would be an inaccuracy at best.

In Boundaries for Your Soul, Cook and Miller lay out a range of underlying emotions and feelings which can cause internal conflict (firefighters, managers, and exiles). To put it short, when any one of these three starts to get out of control, this is when inter/intrapersonal problems arise. After laying this groundwork, Cook and Miller lay out a practical way to deal with them: focus, befriend, invite, unburden, and integrate them. Mixed throughout the book are examples of what applying these principles looks like by sharing anecdotes from the counseling office. The intended goal of all this is to assist the reader in creating internal boundaries for all of the complex emotions he or she deals with.

Cook and Miller manage to write a book that is practical, self-help psychology that is not separated from faith. The techniques that they recommend the reader to try are supported by Scripture references which have a biblical soundness to them. As a guy who deals with some of the cornerstone issues from time to time which this book addresses, I appreciated the soundness of the approach.

I would recommend this book to anyone who has noticed that his or her internal wirings seem disjointed, like something is off. Boundaries for Your Soul will guide you through how to do exactly what the title suggests, create internal boundaries.

I received my copy of this book for free through the BookLook Bloggers program in exchange for reading and reviewing it. The opinions expressed are mine; I was not obligated to post a positive review.