Review: “It’s Okay About It” by Lauren Casper; or, I read a mom-book.

by ggeurs

This is a review of the book It’s Okay About It by Lauren Casper.

When it comes to books, usually about as touchy-feely as I get is reading something from Mitch Albom. Even then, while his work is sentimental, it isn’t emotional. Approaching a book like Lauren Casper’s It’s Okay About It provided me with a challenge as a reader: how do I approach a book written from the perspective of a mother of an adopted, autistic child when something like this is nothing like what I usually read? Fortunately, the challenge was not as great as I anticipated because of how engaging the book’s contents are.

Through the twenty-one anecdotes that make up It’s Okay About It, Casper weaves together episodes of her life as an adoptive mother which help the reader understand her growth and development alongside that of her adopted son Mareto. Each chapter is a meditation on a particular phrase which Mareto happens to say. There were a few points where I felt like Casper might have gone off the deep (intellectually-reflective) end to where it almost felt like a stretch in connecting Mareto’s phrase to a larger topic (“I Smell Jellyfish” or even “Watch Out for Diesel 101” for example). But even in those moments, the chapters are thoughtful.

What was a challenge for me in reading It’s Okay About It was how much Casper hovers in the realm of emotional awareness and maternity. As a dad, I can appreciate emotional awareness. Maternity is harder for me to relate to. Casper does not shy away from sharing with the reader what she is thinking, how she is feeling, the source of the feelings, and their implications and how it impacts her motherhood. In a way, I guess, it helps me have a better perspective on some of my own wife’s potential thoughts and internal monologues.

It’s Okay About It is a good, edifying, enjoyable read. It is not my typical go-to, but I am glad I picked it up. If the perspective reader is a parent, soon-to-be parent, someone who works with kids, or someone who wants a different way of looking at things, pick this book up.

I received my copy of this book for free from BookLook Bloggers in exchange for reviewing it. I was not obligated to publish a positive review; the opinions expressed are mine.