“Dude’s Guide to Marriage.”

by ggeurs

This is a review of the book Dude’s Guide to Marriage  by Darrin and Amie Patrick.


There are no Jeff Bridges references in this book. This needs to be established up front. When I saw this book, my first association was that someone had written a book on marriage tips from the perspective of The Dude, but I was mistaken. Even so, Dude’s Guide to Marriage by Darrin and Amie Patrick is a beneficial read worth the time for any husband looking for a book of helpful tips on how to improve his marriage.

Dude’s Guide to Marriage focuses on ten essential skills for every husband to master, and insights on how to do so. The ten insights in the book are: listening, talking, fighting, growing, providing, resting, serving, submitting, pursuing, and worshiping. Each chapter provides a foundational starting point on the subject, an explanation from the perspective of a Biblical (pre)marital counselor, and then ways to grow practically and realistically in each of the skill areas.

Two parts to this book I find beneficial in each chapter are the insights shared by Darrin’s wife Amie, and guided questions which appear at the end of each chapter. Since this is a book about marriage, it is appropriate for Amie to have an opportunity to speak on each subject. Her comments enrich and deepen the treatment of each topic in the book. The guided questions cover the foundations for each chapter and if used as they are supposed to be (asked to the wife by the husband who is reading the book), the questions can provide the opportunity for some good, honest discussions. I have used the questions with my wife, and as a husband, anytime we can receive helpful feedback from our own wives to get better, it’s a good thing.

The Dude’s Guide to Marriage says nothing new, but it says it in a new way that married millenials especially will be able to understand. This is a book with sound advice that no man, putting the advice in to practice, will be sorry for the sake of his marriage that he did.

I received my copy of this book for free through the BookLook Bloggers program in exchange for writing a review on the book. I was not obligated to post a positive review; the opinions expressed are mine.