Typical marital conversation.
Last night my wife and I were driving home and she made a comment to me (she had made it before and I didn’t remember her saying it). I laughed and acknowledged that her comment was funny. Then she reminded me that she had told me this once before; I told her I never remember having heard her say that. Then she drops the line: “I am now convinced that you just don’t listen.”
I have one of two options, and neither of them are winners:
1. I say, “You’re right, I don’t.” This is a problematic response because if I say that, then it simultaneously affirms and disproves what she said. If I don’t listen, then that would explain why I didn’t hear the story the first time I hear it. But by saying, “You’re right, I don’t”, I am actually proving that I do listen because I am responding to the thing she just said out loud.
2. I say, “Yes, I do.” This acknowledges that I listen because I am hearing the words that she says, but reveals a potentially deeper problem. Either my memory/perceptions are dodgy; or I have become lax at taking the things my wife says to heart. Which is not the case (unless it’s about money or home renovation; two things I know that as a married couple we have to talk about but I don’t enjoy talking about).
Fortunately for me, I went with a third option which worked out well to my wife’s accusation:
“What’d you say?”